“It’s a prime ingredient in countless substances from cereal to soup, from cola to coffee. Consumed at the rate of one hundred pounds for every American every year, it’s as addictive as nicotine — and as poisonous.
It’s sugar.”
This is the beginning of the product description for a book called “Sugar Blues“, by William Dufty, inspired by the crusade of Hollywood legend Gloria Swanson.
It is “the classic, bestselling expose that unmasks our generation’s greatest medical killer and shows how a revitalizing, sugar-free diet can not only change lives, but quite possibly save them.”
I read this book years ago, and for a long time I removed sugar from my family’s diet. But, when my marriage fell apart, when I lapsed into other health problems (due to extreme food allergies I didn’t know I had at the time), and when I became a single mother supporting three children, I resumed my old diet.
Years later, I’m now in a happy, stable marriage, with an amazing and health-conscious man. I work from home as a full-time author, and our family has been put on a special diet called the GAPS diet to heal our bodies of the food allergies and digestive symptoms most of us suffer from.
Our six year old has Irritable Bowel Syndrome and eczema, symptoms from multiple food allergies only recently diagnosed. Our 8 year old also has IBS for the same reason, and an addiction to sweets that stems from these problems. I too have food allergies, digestive problems, and struggle with my weight.
The GAPS diet is designed to cure this over time, to heal the dysbiosis (leaky gut syndrome) that is causing our problems, and this diet requires a strict adherence to NO SUGAR, no starch (including all rice, potatoes, wheat etc.), no processed foods. It’s a diet high in vegetables, meats, fermented foods, nutritious broths and fruits.
This change in lifestyle has been challenging to two writers who aren’t fond of cooking, but for the sake of our health, we’re doing it.
The biggest challenge has come from outside our home.
It seems everywhere our children go there are adults determined to push candy and sugary treats at them. It’s really quite stunning!
We recently had a well-intended neighbor come by with giant bags of gummy bears (GIANT BAGS) for our kids, and argued with us when we politely declined. We finally had to tell him that our doctor has forbade that, and we are all on a special diet.
At the grocery store today, an elderly employee trapped me and another woman with two children in the bathroom (literally trapped us, she blocked the door with that big mop bucket they use), while she pushed candy into the children’s hands without even asking the mother. I was glad my kids were with my husband at the time.
At school, our kids are rewarded for academic achievement and good attendance with such things as ice cream socials, candy treats when they reach reading targets, and pizza with the principal. Now that there is a doctor’s note on hand with the school that our kids can’t have any food not directly provided by us, our children are excluded from these events and feel left out and saddened that their achievements are no longer celebrated.
As Valentine’s Day approaches, we have even considered keeping them home from school that day so they don’t have to spend the day warding off offers for candy and treats from their classmates.
We do what we can from home to give them yummy things (strawberry ice cream made from raw milk, frozen strawberries and raw honey, and dried mangos, honey bread made with coconut flour and more) but we can’t always send them with special treats on days like those, because we never know ahead of time when they will be.
How are we to raise healthy children in a society that is determined to poison them with sugar?
Do you think the term poison is too strong? That I’m overreacting and that a ‘little sugar never hurt anyone?’ I strongly recommend you read Dufty’s book. I’ll be rereading it now that I’m ready to embrace this change so completely.
Sugar is truly a poison that is deadly to our culture, and yet we peddle it to children as if it’s harmless.
When did it become okay for strangers to shove candy at kids without getting permission from the parents?
When did schools become so obsessed with this need to reward our kids for every good deed with buckets of sugary treats?
When did things like bread and soups start requiring sugar in them to sell?
The U.S. has become a candy culture, or maybe more accurately a sugar culture. It’s a unique challenge to live counter-culturally and raise kids at the same time.
I love our children’s school in many respects, and I know they mean no harm to any of the children, but I believe we need to start instituting healthier choices in our schools and homes.
We need to start demanding that sugar be taken out of food.
We need to research the devastating effects that sugar is having on our culture, and look at how sugar has destroyed nations in the past (read the book!).
I want to raise my children in a way that promotes health, vitality and life. It shouldn’t be this hard to decide to eat healthy in this country, and it saddens me that my kids, who are quite happy with the food they get at home, feel so out of place when they eat healthy at school.
What are your thoughts? Have you noticed any of this? Do you have rules about how much sugar your kids eat? What are your school’s policies on food and treats?
Amen! Sugar is deadly…and I am from a family of diabetics. I am trying hard to cut down (and eventually cut out) sugar.
Let me first agree that we eat to much sugar (and when I say “we,” I include myself.) And I am astounded by the amount of candy my kids managed to collect when they were younger. I frequently threw large amounts away, didn’t think we needed a pillow case full of candy for a successful trick-or-treat night, and was sickend by the amount of candy thrown in the streets at parades. And don’t get me started on salt.
But, like most things, I would consider it more “deadly” for some people than others and think that including some sugar in your diet, especially on special occasions is not unreasonable. And when you try to impose vast and sweeping rules passed down from the government, people balk. I’m talking as a mother who stayed up past midnight making frog shaped cupcakes for 22 students, only to have the vice-principal tell me that a new law was taking effect – that day, that they hadn’t sent a note home about – that it was illegal to bring anything with sugar in it to school. She sent me back home with the cupcakes. Yeah, I know it could have been handled differently but that’s the kind of things that happens with laws. The rule has since been changed due to outcry.
I grew up in a family with lots of allergies, and frequently we couldn’t partake in special treats because of them. But it was similar to the fact that I wasn’t allowed to go to keg parties when I was in high school either. 🙂 I survived.
There are other fun things that happen at school parties that your kids probably don’t want to miss! Why not even sign up to send your own treat that your kid can eat that the rest of the class can too? Off of the top of my head at this moment I don’t have a Valentine’s Day idea, but here’s what I did for my daughter’s class Christmas party, a 3D fruit Christmas tree: http://esivy.wordpress.com/2012/12/23/an-empressive-3d-fruit-display-a-grape-and-cherry-christmas-tree/
Okay, here’s an idea. Get a foam heart or ball. Put a stick in it, put it in a weighted flowerpot to make it into a topiary. Cover heart or ball with strawberries stuck on with toothpicks. Decorate the stick with ribbons.
I love your craft idea! And re: the cupcakes, I think any changes like that should happen with warning, but I honestly do think that there should be a rule that adults (parents, teachers, etc.) should give kids food at schools unless it’s something they are getting at the cafeteria because they are signed up by their parents to receive that kind of meal. I know not everyone is going to agree with me on this, and that’s okay too, but I just don’t think that it’s going to harm anyone to take out food options in this way. If there’s a party, or some kind of celebration or achievement award, parents and teachers can use non-food things to celebrate, or have parents send their own child with a goody or treat for the day. I really don’t like that so many people in authority positions (or any position) try to feed my kids so often.
But again, these are my thoughts and I know different people have different ideas about things. I guess in a public school situation, schools should err on the side of caution, especially when there are so many different allergies and lifestyle choices for parents and their kids. A no food policy would make it easier for all parents to raise their children with the food choices they feel is best without having to battle these external influences all day long.
I guess re: the keg vs. treats analogy, the difference would be that teachers aren’t like to give my kids beer. They might see their friends eating it, and I’m not suggesting schools make rules about what kids can bring from home to have in their lunches, I just want them to stop giving it to my kids directly. They’ll have to learn to deal with peer pressure and seeing people eat things they can’t have, etc.
I do appreciate you coming by to comment so thoughtfully, and even though we may disagree on a few points, I’m glad we can have these discussions here! It’s all about having an open dialogue to talk through these ideas, and it’s a pleasure to have you on my site. 🙂
Yes, I agree that you don’t have to agree completely on every point to *discuss* things. Often the other side has some thoughtful ideas that you can learn from. 🙂
Sorry my ideas don’t work – I didn’t know all the dietary restrictions, I was just trying to think of something that’s a little easier than coming up with a Valentine’s Day fruit display since I’ve only done the Christmas tree.
I have another idea for a Valentine treat you could make, based on one I made with vanilla wafers, cream cheese, and strawberries. Do you have a special type of cookie or cracker your son can eat to replace the vanilla wafers?
Sweeten the cream cheese with “just fruit” strawberry spread and/or raw honey. Spread on cookies.
Top with strawberries cut in the shape of hearts. (Carefully remove the tops, slice so that the shape is like a heart with the point at the bottom and put a tiny dip in the top if you need to.)
Maybe if you can’t use any type of cookie or cracker this would work just putting two slices of strawberry together?
Unfortunately, as yummy as those sound, they can’t have cream cheese or wafers and I don’t know of a good cookie substitute, but I did find a great recipe for strawberry cupcakes using honey, duck eggs and almond flour that will work for a lovely treat! Thank you so much for this idea though, it’s a lot of fun!
So very true!
I am currently pregnant with my second child. My first was a giant, born weighing 10 lb 10 oz and I was determined to do anything I could to avoid having another large baby. #1 on my list was cutting out sugar but I had no idea how hard that is! Even sugar-free drinks have a sugar replacement. I’ve since given up on that because it was just impossible to stick to… but I think it’s time to try and pick it back up. It’s really scary how prevalent sugar is in everything we consume.
It really is! And it’s so hard. I’m certainly not perfect, but this new diet requires us to be pretty firm in it. Now I make everything from scratch. Breads are made from almond and coconut flour. The only sweetener we use is raw honey or dates. It’s intense, but I think it’s getting easier. lol Good luck with your pregnancy, and congratulations! 🙂
I am curious about the GAPS diet. I have a 17 year old daughter with Down Syndrome. I am not sure I could get her to drink a juiced carrot though. She is a very picky eater and could live off chicken nuggets and yogurt and crackers 🙁 Any ideas would be great! I am willing to learn and try some new things for me and my family. And Erin I wish I had your strength to cut out most sugars!